We are, today, an accumulation of our live experience. Defensive adaptations developed when young are repeated in our adult years. Some promote a lifetime of growth, other are repeated in a circular pattern, many people describe as being stuck. Therapy is for those who would seek freedom from repeated dysfunction. it is for those who desire to discover how to grow into a fuller life and rich relationships.
I employs a variety of therapeutic treatment methods: Narrative, psychodynamic and emotionally focused therapy principles to help patients to grow out of troublesome dysfunctional thought patterns, feeling states and behaviors that challenge goal accomplishment and relational stability.
The goal of Paradigm Counseling of Puget Sound is to provide quality therapeutic care to patients from an Psychodynamic and Emotional Regualtiory orientation. This means therapy is less about advice and more about discovering what derails progress in patients efforts to feel and function successfully.
My name is Bent Meyer. My office is located in Kirkland.
I provide counseling in the following areas:
Crisis/Trauma: sexual, physical, emotional abuse
Mood: depression and anxiety related
Boundary: control excess or lack of
Intimacy as understood as more than sex
Domestic Violence prevention - Develop skills to control emotional out burst and conflict resolution without the employment of power and control.
Adult survivors of childhood abuse.
Relationship to Self:
"Who am I?" This question often painfully surfaces during long periods of depression, powerlessness, helplessness or despair. The search of the real self seems to lead into empty spaces, or severe self-contempt.
Relationships with others:
Exploring and experiencing the real you that has been hidden in confusion. It is a journey you do not do alone, but in the presence of one who is experienced to journey with you toward an outcome of finding the real you.
The journey is one where you receive benefit through experiencing relationship and exploring your internal world in the context of safety. The journey is experienced differently, since you are not alone.
Relationships are fundamental to human growth. Without them, growth is stunted.. All of us form attachments, some to things like substitutes for real relationships, some to surrogate fantasies rather than real relationships. Each of these occurs because of relationship fractures, trauma, early childhood neglect, social abuses, or physical injury. Therapy is designed to help patients through
I expect and encourage you to obtain knowledge of the procedures, goals, and possible side-effects of counseling. I expect the experience to be one where you receive the maximum benefit. Counseling may be tremendously beneficial for some individuals while, at the same time, there are some risks. The risks may include the experience of intense and unwanted feelings, including: sadness, anger, fear, guilt, or anxiety. It is important to remember that these feelings may be natural. They are an important part of the counseling process. Other risks of counseling may include: recalling of feelings, experiences, and alterations of an individual's ability or desire to deal effectively and harmoniously with others in relationships.
In counseling, major life decisions are sometimes made, including: decisions involving separation within families, development of other types of relationships, changing employment settings, and changing lifestyles. These decisions are a legitimate outcome of the counseling experience as a result of an individual's calling into question many of their beliefs and values. As your therapist, I will be available to explore any of your assumptions, problems, or possible negative side effects of our work together.
My fee is $130.00 for a 55 minute session.
Current Insurance contracts:
I will supply a superbill for: